Ego can be a powerful force. When it’s healthy, it gives us confidence to step into difficult situations, trust our instincts, and push ourselves to higher levels of performance. A healthy ego helps us:
- Speak with conviction when guiding clients through complex transactions.
- Show resilience when a deal falls apart, knowing we have the ability to create the next opportunity.
- Lead others by example, without hesitation or self-doubt.
But ego, when it runs unchecked, can become one of our greatest liabilities. An inflated ego blinds us to feedback, makes us defensive instead of open, and can quickly erode trust with clients and colleagues. We’ve all seen how an agent or leader with an out-of-control ego can damage relationships, drive business away, and ultimately hurt their own reputation.
The key is knowing the difference. A healthy ego makes us strong, but a reckless ego makes us fragile. Confidence should invite collaboration, not shut it down. Strength should build others up, not put them down.
In our business, where relationships are everything, managing ego is a daily discipline. The moment our ego becomes more important than the client, the team, or the truth, we’ve lost our way. But when we keep ego in check and use it as fuel for growth and service, it becomes one of our greatest assets.