Anyone who has enjoyed the art of parenthood surely relates to the ideology of, “only wanting what is best for our kids.” There is no manual that comes with parenting, and it is definitely a learn as you go process, but perhaps that’s what makes it so magical. Where would be the fun in having kids, if they never needed your guidance, your authenticity, and your occasional glare, which always sent the message that you mean business? We want so badly for our children to find happiness. We would literally walk through fire for them if we knew it would help. Sometimes, with good intentions, we push our kids into doing things that we would like to see them do, only to see them resist because they have no interest in our suggestions. We want them to be independent thinkers but sometimes struggle with the idea that their beliefs are not in alignment with ours. We suggest, we push, we nag, and we struggle to understand their thinking. Why? Because we want to help them to find happiness.
I’m 28 years into this parenting gig and I still struggle with my kid’s decisions. Not because they are bad decisions, but because they’re not my decisions. Neither my 28-year-old son, nor my 26-year-old daughter followed the script I spent so much time perfecting. It wasn’t until my kids were young adults, that I realized, while it’s true they carry my genetic make-up, they are their own unique and beautiful souls who have their own paths to walk. How do I know that they have chosen the right path? Here’s the best part… they’re happy. Sure, there’s going to be hiccups and speedbumps on their selected road, but that’s just part of life. And we certainly can be there when they reach out to help them navigate some of those challenges. That’s what makes this job never-ending… and so darn special.
Not to get too philosophical about this, but much of what I’m describing regarding my relationship with my kids, transfers over to the relationship I have with all of you. Just this week, in a conversation with an agent in our office, I said respectfully, “I sort of feel like I’m the dad of the office.” Quite simply, I want you all to be happy. Unfortunately, I don’t know what will make that happen for you, but I can make an effort to point you in the right direction. I can offer my guidance, my authenticity… and an occasional glare. I can have your back and offer support, but at the end of the day, it’s on you. You must decide what about this business makes you happy. What lights that fire within you and gets you out of bed each day? All the tools, resources and support systems are here for you to take advantage of. But no one is going to write a script for you to follow. You need to find your own unique path towards happiness. It starts with determining where you want to go, then taking the first step. Sure, you may get a little sidetracked now and then, but I mean… that’s what dads are for. He’s always got your back.
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