I remember watching a movie years ago, a comedy that stuck with me for an unexpected reason. There was a race, hurdlers charging down the track, leaping over each obstacle with precision and effort. And then there was one guy who took a completely different approach. Instead of jumping the hurdles, he ran around them.
It was funny. Creative, even. An out of the box solution.
But the more I have thought about it over the years, the more I have come to realize how often that same approach shows up in real life.
We go around instead of through.
Now, to be fair, there are times when going around an obstacle is the right call. Strategy matters. Efficiency matters. Not every challenge requires a head-on collision.
But too often, avoiding the hurdle is not strategy. It is fear, discomfort, or simply the desire to take the easier path. And that comes at a cost.
Because when we consistently go around the hard things in life, we do not just avoid the obstacle, we avoid the growth that comes with it. We slowly begin to settle. Not all at once, but little by little. We accept less than what we are capable of becoming.
The person who ultimately pays the price is not the world around us. It is us.
Think about your own experiences. The moments that shaped you the most likely were not the easy wins. They were the struggles. The deals that almost fell apart. The conversations you did not want to have. The setbacks that forced you to recalibrate and come back stronger.
That is where the real learning happens.
I have made more mistakes than I can count over the years. And while I would not necessarily recommend that as a strategy, I can tell you this with certainty. Those mistakes have been some of my greatest teachers.
Growth does not come from comfort. It comes from resistance.
There is an old story about a baby chick trying to break out of its shell. A well-meaning person sees it struggling and decides to help by cracking the shell open. The chick survives the moment, but without the struggle, it never develops the strength it needs to live. And it does not last. That struggle was not the problem. It was the process. And it is no different for us.
We build strength by pushing against resistance. Physically, mentally, emotionally, it is all the same principle. We become better by engaging with the very things we would often prefer to avoid.
In our business, and in life, the hurdles are everywhere. Market shifts. Tough clients. Rejection. Competition. Self-doubt.
You can go around them. Or you can rise to meet them.
The people who grow, who evolve, who separate themselves over time are not the ones with the fewest obstacles. They are the ones who choose to face them head on.
Because on the other side of every hurdle is a version of yourself that is a little stronger, a little sharper, and a little more capable than before.
And here is the reality. Very few people who push through the climb ever regret it. But plenty of people look back and wish they had not stopped short.
We were not built for a life of ease. We were built for challenge.
So, the next time you are staring down a hurdle, ask yourself a simple question.
Am I going around this, or am I growing through it?
Because that decision, repeated over time, will define who you become.
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